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    April 30

    我们做人切忌恃才自傲

       我们做人切忌恃才自傲
     
     
    “恃才自傲”,在中国是公认的缺点,一个人倘若不幸背了这个名声,生活之路就多半会比别人多一些坎坷。这在中国,已经是“为人处世”的一个常识。虽然没有看出才华,但是不知道收敛,谦虚,谨慎。所谓“花要半开,酒要半醉”正是指此意。有才华的人是让人羡慕的,才华是你的终身财富,但把这才华用作傲人的资本就不能说是一件好事了,要深知人外有人,天外有天,恃才傲物如同炫耀一般终究遭人厌恶。
     

         作为一个有才华的人,要做到不露锋芒,既有效地保护自我,又能充分发挥自己的才华,不仅要克服、战胜盲目骄傲自大的病态心理,更要养成谦虚让人的美德。我们做人切忌恃才自傲,不知饶人。锋芒太露易遭嫉恨,更容易树敌。当今社会,你不露锋芒,可能永远得不到重任;你锋芒太露却又易招人陷害。锋芒太露的人虽容易取得暂时成功,却为自己掘好了坟墓。当你施展自己的才华时,也就埋下了危机的种子。所以才华显露要适可而止人生就是这样。所以,即使你有非常出众的才智,但也一定要谨记:不要把自己看得太了不起,不要把自己看得太重要,不要把自己看成是救国济民的圣人君子似的,该收敛时就收敛,夹起尾巴好做人,切勿光芒晃人眼。而是一味的炫耀,夸大,辱骂,以引起别人的注意。正如前人所言:“ 笔下龙蛇走,胸中锦绣成。开谈惊四座,捷对冠群英

     

         一个人有才,有能力是好事,但如果有了能力就有恃无恐,不知收敛,那么在职场中,他的下场也会比较可悲。三国时,有个叫杨修的大才子在曹操的手下混饭吃,绝对才智过人,偏偏他恃才放旷,结果招来曹操的大忌,最后被杀了头。在现代职场中当然不会有断头之祸,可恃才方旷、功高欺主的人,不论在哪个职位上,都不讨人喜欢,时间越长,事业失败的可能性也越大。所以《尚书》中告戒我们,做人要“虚心实腹”。即:肚子里的货色要多多益善,才情越多越好,但是待人接物的态度却要越虚心越好。现代企业,讲的是团队合作,只有诚恳待人,会做事、也会做人,才能在职场中游刃有余。

     

        总之,职场瞬息万变,需要有灵活的头脑,而不是耍小聪明。没有一个上司会喜欢给他添乱的下属,不管不是有意还是无意。在职场中,有能力的人也不能恃才傲物。恃才非但不能自傲,反而还要感恩给予你展示才华机会的上司,因为没有上司的信任与使用,你既使是龙也只好卧着,是虎也只好盘着。最后落得个怀才不遇,扶凌云而自息的境地,岂不哀哉!

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